mY naKed Thoughts

Since I professed to abhor my exhausting underrated yet noble job and I can’t stomach the well-paid peddling ass business, I’m now contemplating of applying a job that hits big time yet requires little of me. There’s a growing business in Philippines now. Be hired as a  temporary mother and have your perpetual womb be rented for only 9 months and presto! You will earn a staggering amount of 1.4 million pesos / US $30,000 in a very short span! Wow! How’s that for a work? amazing? or pathetic?

They are called Surrogate Mothers. They’re compassionate, caring and loving people. Well, so far, that’s what I know. I mean,  who cares about who and what they are in real? If they are paid through their bones to act as surrogate mothers, they’re expected to act the aforementioned as well. Besides, nothing to worry because that’s the easy part of the job. The hardest part is, When the method of surrogacy starts. It begins from choosing the type of method the mother will undergo. 

FIRST, is the “traditional” method where the sperm( from a man) was mixed with the surrogate’s own eggs through artificial insemination. SECOND, is the “gestational” method which is harder, riskier and costlier. Here, the surrogate merely acts as the host. Eggs from another woman are mixed with sperm in a laboratory using a process called in vitro fertilization. The resulting embryo – popularly known as a “test tube baby” - is then planted inside the surrogate’s womb.

I feel the word Surrogate Mother is just sugarcoating its bittersweet meaning to make things plausible to the scrutinising public eye. I’m nonplussed as to, Can being a mother expire for 9 mos. as stated in a surrogacy contract?  When a man who’s a stranger donates his sperm, he is only called a donor. This applies to the strange woman donor as well. How can a woman be called “Mother” whatever her reason is, if she sold or gave away her offspring?! How about the other siblings? Did it occur in their atrophying mind that the “brothers or sisters” has the rights to know each other?

My son Paolo had asked me what’s the title of my latest blog. I told him the initial title ” Womb for rent.” He replied, ”Bahay bata for rent?!”  “Yes, the bahay bata or the house of the baby inside the woman’s body is being rented. They will put a seed to the woman’s body and let it grow and when it comes out, the real parents will take the baby.” I explained tersely. He didn’t reply but I saw on his webcam an oh-my-God! eyes from his naturally chinky eye.

I remember my ever businessminded father once wanted our house to be rented. He convinced us robustly but to no avail. We all refused to commercialise the house. Our  home might be not be a swanky condo to live in but our hearts nestled on it. The convenience and serenity it bring amid all the crying babies and the frugality of it’s structure. We loved our house. We don’t want anyone to botch our house. How much more if it’s my own womb?

A fairy tale story of compassion and love might being told to justify these acts. Some very few women might have altruistic approach on these surrogacy with motive of helping incapable couples to have babies of their own. However, fairy tales don’t always end up beautifully. The end doesn’t always justify the means. There are tons of complications and issues entailing on this. The bottom line, It’s still giving away part of ourselves. To concede in a contract that you are allowing somebody to take over your whole biological system, form a life and rip you out of it in due time. How savage that is to yourself! 

To some people, having no love or lust involved, only the meeting of sperms is a good news. For me, ironically it’s a bad news. I would rather have a baby out of love or lust than have it out of money. However, one who’s body ruled by money, we should expect that emotions are absent as well. Let them be cold as stone walls. Damn the hiding on ” for good cause” reasons coz I don’t buy it. On the contrary, You might say “Nothing personal, just work.” if that’s your motto, then you’re just  a damned freakin machine. A soul less life factory.

Post script: Related topics will follow.